TL;DR
“Femboy” is a style/aesthetic, not a gender identity. Many who use the word are boys/men or AMAB non-binary; some women also play with the look. Pronouns aren’t implied, use the ones the person shares. Think of “femboy” as how someone dresses and vibes, not who they are.
What the Word Describes (and Doesn’t)
Describes: a person—often AMAB—who enjoys feminine or androgynous styling (skirts, stockings, crops, soft colours or goth lace) while keeping part of their own gender presentation.
Doesn’t describe: their gender identity, sexuality, or medical history. “Femboy” ≠ girl, ≠ trans woman, ≠ a specific orientation. It’s a look and a lane of self-expression.
Why the name confuses people: the term mixes “fem” (feminine) with “boy.” Some take that literally and assume a fixed gender. In real life, language is looser—people borrow aesthetics across identities.
Who Uses the Label?
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Men and boys who like feminine presentation.
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Non-binary folks (AMAB) who find the word captures their style.
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Anyone experimenting with gendered fashion; some will wear the look without the label.
The common thread is aesthetic, not a shared gender box.
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So… What Pronouns Do I Use?
You can’t infer pronouns from clothes. Best practice:
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Check their bio/name tag (online or IRL).
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Ask politely: “Hey—what pronouns do you use?”
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Mirror their words (“he/him,” “they/them,” “she/they,” etc.).
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If you slip, correct and move on—no long apology monologues needed.
Checkout PrideTraining's blog on What pronouns to use!
Why Expectations Get Weird (and How to Ignore Them)
Algorithms push a tiny slice of “ideal” femboy: hairless, ultra-slim, pastel mini, perfect lighting. That loop can turn a playful style into gatekeeping (“not femboy enough,” “too masc”). Reminder:
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Bodies vary. Hair, height, muscle, scars—none disqualify the style.
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Aesthetics vary. Pastel, goth, sporty, street, cottage—still femboy if you say so.
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Comfort sells confidence. If you can move, sit, and breathe in the fit, it reads better than any filter.
Build the Look (Whatever Your Gender)
Start with outfit formulas rather than rules:
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Crop + Pleated Skirt + Thigh-Highs – classic cute; swap pastel ↔ goth colours to change the mood.
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Mesh Top + Mini (pleated or vinyl) + Chunky Sneakers – club-ready, easy to tone down with a hoodie.
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Oversized Tee + High-Waist Shorts + Striped Socks – comfy streetwear take.
Fit is everything—measure first, then pick the letter size.
Size & Fit 101: How to Measure for Femboy Clothing
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Etiquette: Compliment Style, Not Bodies
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Do: “Love how you paired the cardigan with the skirt.”
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Don’t: interrogate gender, surgery, or sexuality.
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If you’re unsure: mirror the language they use about themselves.
Quick FAQ
Is “femboy” a gender?
No. It’s a style term. Gender identity is personal and separate.
Can women be femboys?
Some women enjoy the aesthetic or use the term playfully. Labels are tools—people choose what fits.
Do I need to shave or be skinny?
No. Smooth legs and certain body types trend online, but they’re optional. Wear what feels good.
Is it sexual by default?
No. Like any style, it can show up in adult contexts, but most people wear it for everyday self-expression.
Final Word
If you came wondering what gender a femboy “goes as,” here’s the honest answer: there isn’t one. Clothes don’t define gender—people do. Use the pronouns you’re given, pick pieces that feel like you, and let the label serve your joy, not the other way around.
